Comments on your wishcake.: on my happiness project...

i think i'm bookmarking this post. for some r...

2009-11-09T14:53:15.448-08:00

i think i'm bookmarking this post.
for some reason I've just felt "blah" lately. I don't know why. I shouldn't. I'm employed, engaged, and overall "The Shit Is Good."
But I can't shake the blues.
I'm scared to death it's not something I can control, but before I even start to consider such I think I'm going to embark on the WishCake Guide To Happiness and see if it helps.
:-) Thanks for this post.

Great post. I heard a pastor say the other day th...

2009-10-28T11:25:27.176-07:00

Great post. I heard a pastor say the other day that we need to focus more on how we've been blessed than on what we haven't received or have lost. And as you've written, that's crucial in relationships. It's so easy to feel slighted over silliness, but it's so much more joyous to take note of every good thing.

What a lovely post. Reading your story made me rea...

2009-09-29T12:14:38.723-07:00

What a lovely post. Reading your story made me realize that I do the same thing. I have turned into a pessimist over the years. I'm going to pay more attention to my reaction to things and see how that goes. Thank you :)

I love this post. Being content is something that...

2009-09-24T16:30:04.935-07:00

I love this post. Being content is something that I really need to work on, especially in light of all that's going on with my body, etc. Thanks for the reminder.

Lovely. Just lovely. It's always worth it to...

2009-09-22T12:42:52.658-07:00

Lovely. Just lovely. It's always worth it to work on things before they get to the breaking point. You're so mature about your approach to marriage, I know that you and Jay will go the distance!! There is no room for failure. :o)

This is so inspiring to me. I do the exact same t...

2009-09-22T08:28:13.121-07:00

This is so inspiring to me. I do the exact same thing when it comes to the dishes and laundry. I think...gosh...is he purposely doing this to annoy me? I mean, why put your plate next to the sink and not in the dishwasher RIGHT UNDERNEATH THE SINK!!

But what you said about letting Jay feel comfortable in his own house...gosh that is so true. I don't want Matt to think I'm on his case all the time about such little things that only bother me and he could care less about.

Thank you so, so much for posting this :)

this is an amazing project. and you and jay are fa...

2009-09-21T14:21:29.809-07:00

this is an amazing project. and you and jay are fabulous (even though i haven't met him, i'm just assuming so because you're fabulous so he has to be too). and um heart everything about this post so much.

this is so inspiring! thank you for being honest a...

2009-09-21T12:16:13.036-07:00

this is so inspiring! thank you for being honest about the work that you're doing!

I think I need to work on a lot of this too! I cer...

2009-09-21T10:45:39.726-07:00

I think I need to work on a lot of this too! I certainly don't mean to be negative but it happens and when it does it totally sucks because it really does impact my life, my job, my co-workers. As always you're an inspiration. =)

So nice to read that someone else struggles with l...

2009-09-21T10:15:44.135-07:00

So nice to read that someone else struggles with letting something get the best of them! It really is an everyday work in progress, but I'm so happy for you that you're feeling lighter!

thank you for this post. i can definitely relate a...

2009-09-21T07:17:35.856-07:00

thank you for this post. i can definitely relate and need to take some of these methods and apply them to my own marriage! you're so great :)

so proud of you, beautiful girl. i'm sure you...

2009-09-20T20:46:32.946-07:00

so proud of you, beautiful girl. i'm sure you've seen this, but i have it hanging on my fridge and on the wall of my office at work:

“The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, the education, the money, than circumstances, than failure, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company... a church... a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past... we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. And so it is with you... we are in charge of our Attitudes.”

love.

It's amazing how your words always seem to spe...

2009-09-20T19:11:59.597-07:00

It's amazing how your words always seem to speak out my thoughts some time... probably even everyone's thoughts.

...that's why I love your blog!

Isn't it funny how being happy and positive se...

2009-09-20T15:58:35.006-07:00

Isn't it funny how being happy and positive seems to come so naturally to some people, and then here we are saying okay I'm going to TRY to be more positive. But then once you start trying, it becomes easier and easier. So I hope that your happiness project starts to feel less like a project as you continue to get yourself in that happiness mindset :)

Thank you so much for sharing this. I needed to re...

2009-09-20T08:18:31.957-07:00

Thank you so much for sharing this. I needed to read this today, and, like everyone else, I'm guilty of having a bad attitude a lot. This makes me want to work on a little happiness project of my own!

I really really needed this. Everyone of your exam...

2009-09-20T07:55:04.371-07:00

I really really needed this. Everyone of your examples has happened in my home between me and my husband in the last two weeks and I haven't handled them with much grace at all. As a result.. I've had some pretty crappy days and before reading your post this morning.. have felt pretty darn hopeless. So thanks for the encouraging words! Your decision to consciously be happy and show love has inspired and challenged me to take the next right step and do the same! thank you. by the way.. (and no kidding here) I lost by half to my husband in scrabble last night. it's humbling to say the least.

What a GREAT post!! I was just sitting here ON My...

2009-09-20T07:45:47.519-07:00

What a GREAT post!!
I was just sitting here ON My computer because I was in an un-happy mood, and definitely taking it out on my husband. Point number 4 you made could have come out of my mouth WORD FOR WORD!! Amazing!!
I really appreciate you writing the truth and not just writing about how marriage is unicorns and butterflies all the time! After I comment, I am going to embrace this beautiful day with my husband and be a happy wife with him! He is always happy…and I find my negative moods bring him down sometimes…Thanks for an honest and true post!!

I'm a really sore loser too. I love to read y...

2009-09-20T07:23:17.836-07:00

I'm a really sore loser too.

I love to read your blogs. Seriously, they're inspiring. I'm getting married next year, and I just know I'm going to be reading your old blogs because they offer me a kind of clarity on my own behavior.

Okay, the "raptured" thing IS funny. BU...

2009-09-20T06:17:54.470-07:00

Okay, the "raptured" thing IS funny.

BUT, I totally get what you're saying. I was completely self-centered and manipulative growing up (what teenage girl isn't)... but through incredible parenting, a humbling courtesy of working in restaurants, and fucking up a lot, I've slowly realized that and worked on it and I've changed. It will, as you said, always be a work in progress... but knowing is half the battle, right? ;-)

Love this!

I love this post. I heart your honesty and abilit...

2009-09-19T19:16:40.985-07:00

I love this post. I heart your honesty and ability to put into words the exact same emotions so many of us feel. That's pretty amazing...

What a great little post. A lot of the "issu...

2009-09-19T19:06:54.048-07:00

What a great little post. A lot of the "issues" you felt, I feel too. But you're right, in the grand scheme of things... the stupid stuff doesn't matter.

I like you're idea. I'm going to run with it myself, if you don't mind!!

I totally understand where you're coming from....

2009-09-19T14:57:02.176-07:00

I totally understand where you're coming from. I grew up with both parents slightly more on the negative side. My whole life I spent trying to make my parents see the positive while they stubbornly showed me the negatives in everything I ever wanted to do or buy or see or make of myself.

As I've grown up, I've noticed my optimism has been lacking. My boyfriend will note that sometimes I'm acting like my mother or father in terms of negativity, and it makes me sick.

I've been trying this past year to get back into the optimistic side of things, with blogging, doing things for others, getting over the imperfections in life.

I think that's why we both have so much trouble. Perfectionists have trouble with anything that's not "perfect". Like your score in Scrabble, on a deep level it just does not live up to your standards (trust me, I cheat at Monopoly to win or else I quit the game if I'm losing too.).

My favourite quote is this:

"Being happy doesn't mean everything is perfect. It means that you've decided to look beyond the imperfections."

Once I figured that out, things became better.

xoxo

I love this post and it makes me ridiculous happy....

2009-09-19T14:18:39.635-07:00

I love this post and it makes me ridiculous happy. I read The Art Of Happiness too and it completely changed my thoughts on happiness. Happiness is a choice (sometimes a hart done, but still a choice). You are marvelous.

Ok, I need to answer one of your post for once and...

2009-09-19T13:08:25.480-07:00

Ok, I need to answer one of your post for once and for all. I became a fan a few months ago and have been following you since. First, let me say that I love what you have to say. Your stories are adorable, sweet, inspiring. I also turn into a cheeseball and go all "oh my god, I totally can relate!"

This post was definitely one of them, I have been with my boyfriend for over four years now (still waiting to call him my fiance, ahem) and he's amazing. I let little things get to me more than I often should, and he doesn't deserve my pettiness. It's amazing how he puts up with me sometimes.

Thank you for reminding not only me but others on keeping positive, a little thing that that can go a long way. :]

As for the little things like a note here or there, why don't you do it for him instead and maybe he'll start returning the favor. Unless that's something you already do.

I also suck at Scrabble big time.

Amen sister.

2009-09-19T12:11:30.439-07:00

Amen sister.