February 25, 2014

eight years later...

8th anniversary | yourwishcake.com
Today, Jay and I celebrate eight years of marriage. As is usually the case, I feel that we've been together forever, yet the years have passed so quickly it's hard to even imagine that almost a decade has gone by.

I think a lot about that twenty-one year old girl who walked down the aisle that day. By many modern standards, I was jumping into the whole thing way too soon. We had only been officially together for a few months before Jay was on his knee, asking me to marry him—and, to be honest, I knew he was the one only a few weeks into dating. We were engaged for just over a year, and we didn't live with each other until the day we were officially a mister and missus. We were in our early-twenties…both of us holding many high expectations and hopes for what was to come.

Still, we walked down the aisle that morning, committed our lives to one another, spent the afternoon celebrating with friends and family, and sped off towards the Anaheim Ramada in Jay's rickety old Mazda.

And the rest, as they say, is history.

I'm grateful that we're at a peaceful place right now, when it comes to our marriage and relationship. But that's not to say that we're one of those couples who seem to have it all together. I mean, who really can? Marriage is work, and it is compromise, and it is sometimes loving someone without feeling like you're in love. But it is also one of the most rewarding things you will ever experience in your life.

We've changed in so many ways since our wedding day. We've grown up in so many ways. But I'm grateful we've somehow managed to hang on to each other and grow together, too. We are two imperfect people, loving each other as well as we possibly can…which means we fail a lot, and our love story is in no way similar to the Meg Ryan and Tom Hanks romance I had always wished for when I was younger.

But you know what? This is real. And it's ours. And we're lucky to have it.

It's messy, it's silly, it's not always enviable or pretty or poetic. There are seasons of good and there are seasons when it's really hard to see any good at all…but there are also seasons of oh-my-gosh, you really are the best person in the entire world.

Jay is such a good guy. He is so good for me. And I'm lucky to have him as my husband.

"A successful marriage requires
falling in love many times,
always with the same person."
—Mignon McLaughlin


  1. Happy 8th anniversary!!! I love what you said at the end of your post, that your husband is such a good guy, that he's good FOR you. That's a good point.
    And hey, pretty awesome how you knew weeks into dating him that he was the one! I wish that would happen to me!

  2. I love everything about this. Happy 8 years, you two.

  3. This is lovely. Happy anniversary! :)

  4. My favorite post of yours. Period. <3
    Happy anniversary!!

  5. This post couldn't have come at a better time! I found out yesterday that my boyfriend of two years bought an engagement ring. I've been catching nothing but grief about being too young all day from a few select friends/ family members that I told (i'm almost 21) and it's so encouraging to then see this. Congratulations on 8 years! I wish you a lifetime more of happiness and blessings.

  6. Happy anniversary! You both look as beautiful today as you did eight years ago. Here's to many, many more happy years.

  7. Love this -- love how you don't paint marriage as this fairytale and that everything is perfect. Happy anniversary!

  8. Happy anniversary! This is such a sweet and inspiring post to read, and I feel like in my own way I can relate... even though Adam and I were in our late 20s when we got engaged, we had only been dating a few months... and honestly we weren't even admitting to anyone we were together pretty much the whole time, haha. I remember sitting at dinner with him the first time I had seen him in years and just knowing something special was about to happen. I think it's beautiful that you and Jay found each other so early and that you have this amazing story of your journey so far. I know it'll continue to be blessed in the many years to come!

  9. We share the same anniversary! We were 2/25/12 and I too was 21 walking down the aisle :) Hope you guys had a great day!!!

  10. Happy anniversary! I'm young and engaged so I understand where you are coming from. I knew he was the one at the beginning, too, and I do think there is an advantage to getting married young(ish) — despite what all the naysayers say.

  11. Happy Anniversary! I absolutely love that quote you shared because it's so so so true. Marriage is by no means easily and the good and bad definitely ebbs and flows. I'm in a really good place with my marriage right now but we were in a not so great place about a year ago. It's about making that choice to love someone every single day, though even if you certainly don't feel in love with them (or even that you like them at the moment. ha).

  12. aw i love everything about this post. happy anniversary to you and jay xo

  13. I love that quote, and I love your openness. I think it's really nice to acknowledge the work that goes into a marriage because it is admirable when two people both strive toward creating something great together. If everything were always so easy, then it wouldn't all be so rewarding. : )

    Happy Anniversary to both of you!!

  14. I'm suuuper late to the party here, but I wanted to be sure to pop in and say happy belated anniversary! We got married in 2005, as well, and I feel like we have reached the stage of being Really Married. Hooray for that. :)


Thoughts? Questions? General musings? Do share!

If you are asking a question, I will respond here within the comments—so, be sure to click that handy little "notify me" box below to know when I've replied!