May 14, 2013

on things I never thought I'd do...

We recently got rid of our satellite TV. To be honest, I had no idea the whole thing would be…not a big deal. We'd had DIRECTV for years, but one day we got to talking it over and realized the only things we were really watching were Chopped marathons on Food Network (I mean, who doesn't like that show?), football games (to clarify: I eat food while Jay watches the games), and random TLC reality shows. We never wanted to pay extra for fancy channels or HD any sort of DVR, so we were paying nearly $50 a month for hardly anything. After a certain point, we figured that we could make do without it, and finally took the plunge last month.

I don't miss it at all. In fact, I don't even notice it's gone. It's kind of weird.

All things considered, we have plenty of ways to still watch TV. I never actually watch shows on the night they air, and am happy enough to watch certain shows online (like Grey's Anatomy via Hulu). We also have Netflix streaming for only $7.99 a month, which gives me my cultural documentary and Arrested Development fix, and gives Eisley her daily dose of Barney and Caillou. We also bought this antenna, not knowing whether or not it would even work well. But it does! It almost feels like we're doing something illegal. Free TV? With HD channels? WHAT.

Yes, it's been good. And we still get to watch Jeopardy every night like the hip, young folks we are.

This change had me thinking about all the other things that would probably surprise the person I was a decade ago. At that point in life, I'm sure I mostly thought I had figured out the sort of person I'd become, but (perhaps unsurprisingly) that wasn't the case. Here are a few other things I've done in the past couple years that I never expected to do:

Going (mostly) veggie: The summer I was pregnant with Eisley, Jay had the grand idea to go vegetarian. I was annoyed by it, mostly because he had openly mocked me when I tried to be vegetarian for one month a while earlier. (This could be because after one week I was chowing down on a cheeseburger from In-N-Out, but still.) Soon thereafter I was on board, and it's been much easier than I thought. We don't buy meat to have at home, but we're not to the point of refusing to eating meat if we're served some at someone's house or at an event of some sort. (To be honest, I still get giddy to eat meat dishes when we're visiting family or at restaurants. I'll probably never flat out refuse to eat any meat for the rest of my life, but I'm pleased to report that I really only eat it once every several months or so.)

Around here, we eat a lot of tofu, fish, beans, and rice. Subbing other things in recipes to make them vegetarian is much less intimidating that you may think. We also like making things like soups, chilis, pasta dishes, and stir fry—which are super easy to make without meat and with extra servings of veggies.

Buying almond milk: Never in my life did I think I'd come to not only tolerate, but enjoy "fake" milk. I used to think the only people who bought such a thing had a lactose intolerance or were borderline hippies. Yet, here I am! Pouring unsweetened vanilla almond milk on my cereal like it ain't no thang! Old me would judge new me, but I'm okay with that. After doing a bit of research and finding so much info on how cows milk isn't nearly as important as the dairy industry makes it out to be, I am eager to make the switch for Eisley and Jay, too. (But we'll see how it goes for Jay. No promises!)

Raising a toddler in a one-bedroom duplex: This was in no way a part of any childhood fantasy I had about marriage, motherhood, and being a grown-up. But, you know what? I wouldn't have it any other way. It's been more natural than anything, and less of a challenge than people may assume. It wasn't that many years ago that many of our own great-grandparents were raising large families in tiny homes without feeling like they were terribly deprived. And, sure, times have changed, but we've all seen how modern culture pushes so much of the whole you-must-have-this and you-need-to-buy-this on us every day. It's been refreshing to meet other people who don't find it weird that our daughter's crib is in our room, or that we are a family of three in a one-bedroom duplex.

I definitely dream of the day we have our own home, and our own room, and a nice yard, but for now this situation has been fairly easy to handle. Simplicity, folks. It's not too shabby.

And aside from the items listed above, there are a few other things I've managed to do in the past ten years that at one point would have seemed out of character for me. Confidently driving on Southern California freeways, having the ability to run for three miles straight, certain parenting decisions I've made (like extended breasfeeding and co-sleeping when Eisley was younger), drinking coffee in the morning like a real adult (albeit with some deliciously fattening creamer), and developing what I like to consider a healthy dislike for things such as shopping malls, beauty magazines, and thong underwear.

That last one may, in fact, be a slight over-share, but really, you guys? Not happening.

It's been interesting to look back on how there are many things in life that have just…kind of happened. They've become part of the person I am, even though I never expected them to. Big decisions, smaller changes, all of it.

Kind of makes me wonder what else I have up my sleeve that I don't even know about yet, you know?

Further reading: Room Sharing with a Toddler


  1. Haha, I agree 100% with the thong statement. I have no idea why I ever wore one.

  2. Such a great post. :) I feel like it totally encapsulates the growing up process, too. "Oh, this is who I am now? When did that happen?"

  3. I think canceling cable is a brilliant idea. We rarely watch shows when they're airing either, so it almost seems pointless when most of what we want to see is available online, on Hulu, or at the library. I don't think I'll ever be able to convince me husband to ditch the cable (or switch to almond milk, unfortunately) but I'm definitely in support of those ideas!

    One of my favorite things about adulthood is learning those surprising things about myself, so this post is something I can definitely relate to right now! It sounds like you're really finding your happy place!

  4. Love this so much. I've definitely been having moments like that lately. I've been drinking almond milk and making smoothies and going for water instead of a glass of wine at the end of the night. All these little changes that keep happening is just so unintentional but amazing to look at at the same time.

    Also, totally agree with thongs. I've never understood them and my goodness, just no thank you.

  5. Thongs are so overrated.

    Tofu and fake milk, however? I am all in!

    1. I can't tell you how happy I am to discover so many other women who are anti-thong. It's like we have our own full-coverage sisterhood. ;)

      And, for the record, you are one of the people who inspired me to be veggie!

  6. So. Here's the thing. I'd really love it if you could be my neighbor and teach me your vegetarian tricks because I think it could be super fun to try. And, p.s. thongs are a waste of time. Period.

  7. All your changes are pretty great. There are definitely some things I want to change myself, and while it's hard getting there (trying to cut way back on sugar! I have a sweet tooth), I'm making the effort.
    It's great to read your post, and see all the things you're doing, and knowing that it just takes follow through to go through with changes.
    Way to go Kerri!
    Although I'm with you on the Thong underwear(never wore it, and don't plan to)! I'm curious how Almond milk tastes though...

  8. So Jay was ok with giving up sports? That's the main reason David won't let us cancel.

    1. That was the reason it took us so long to cancel, to be honest! But for some reason he seems okay with it. He can watch a lot of the "main" games (or whatever you want to call them) on Fox, and along with that there are the shows before and after with all the (boring) commentary and stuff. ;) I thought he'd be sad about getting rid of ESPN, but hopefully he'll survive the upcoming football season.

      We never paid for any extra sports programming, so we didn't have to say goodbye to too much!


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