January 5, 2012

on some (simple) resolutions...


I've decided to keep it simple this year. In the past, I've tried to do all the usual "lose ten pounds", "read fifty books", "eat more fruit" sorts of things, but I've found that it just doesn't happen. I've realized that losing ten pounds is overrated, I'm lucky if I finish one book within the span of four months, and I'd actually like to eat all the baked goods I can get my hands on.

This year, I'm going to be realistic. And kinder to myself.

1. Step away from the scale.

Seems counterintuitive, but I have found that once I start obsessing over the number on the scale, there's no going back. Even when I reached my goal weight a couple years back, I'd still end up focusing on that number—as opposed to celebrating a strong, capable, healthy body. Since having the wee one, I've found myself getting back into the number game, and I'm tired of looking at the scale. I'm saying goodbye. I refuse to weigh myself in 2012.

That's not to say that I don't care about being healthy. Of course I do. But I've learned that the scale isn't an accurate representation of my health, and it's a slippery slope. Instead of saying, "I want to be 120 lbs. again, sweet mercy." I'm going to say, "Although I'd like to keep these collar bones around a while longer, I refuse to fret about a little tummy pooch. Amen."

My health goals for the upcoming year: Start running again, learn to make more fresh, delicious meals, continue to enjoy our newly-vegetarian lifestyle (more on this later), and...eat more fruit and baked goods.

2. Document life.

This is a tricky one. I've been trying to find balance in doing this—between writing, photos and such. But my biggest challenge has been finding moderation. I've stepped away from the blog a bit for this reason. Although blogging has been a huge part of my life for years, I think it's easy to get swept up in the desire to write down everything that happens and share it with the world. Although some people manage to do this with so much grace and eloquence (and balance), I've learned that some moments are best kept to myself. In my own mind. Without a blog post or photo attached.

There are things I do want to do, though. I want to remember the little things, how new motherhood feels, the words Jay says that make me laugh endlessly, she color of Eisley's eyes at this exact moment.

The year ahead is pretty huge. It will mark six years of marriage with Jay, Eisley's first year, a brand new job for Jay, moving to a new place (crossing our fingers we find something that works). So, this year, I hope to find the balance between making these memories and documenting them.

My memory goals for this year: Remember that it's okay to not have every moment documented in a photo or journal entry, begin an album of photos for Eisley's first year, finally complete a wedding album (now that we have rights to the photos—LONG STORY, UGHHH), write in this book daily and this book monthly.

3. Grow.

This is, quite possibly, the most important of my resolutions this year. And one specific aspect of my life in which I'm truly craving growth would have to be my faith. I am confident in what I believe; I suppose I'd just like to feel like those beliefs aren't stagnant. I want to be unapologetically, unabashedly Christian. I'm not sure exactly what that means, or the steps I will take to get there, but I'm eager to explore.

Aside from my spiritual side, I'd also like to grow creatively, professionally (as I continue to pursue my handmade business), as a mother, as a wife. I want to look back at this time a year from now and see a definite change for the better.

My personal growth goals for this year: Officially join a church as a family, be more forgiving (of myself and of others), challenge myself creatively, fully embrace all aspects of my role as stay-at-home-mama.

There are dozens of other little things I could add to these lists, but some things are best left in my head, I suppose. And I do want to keep it (fairly) simple this year. Things I know I can accomplish. Things I don't dread, but look forward to.

It's going to be a fantastic year. Truly.


  1. I love your goals, Keri. Cheering you on from the sidelines ;)

  2. Great goals! Cheers to a wonderful 2012. :)

  3. These are such wonderful, healthy resolutions! I can tell that 2012 is going to be a wonderful year for you. I feel the same way. I can't wait for all of the amazing adventures that are ahead of me.

  4. I love your list! They're unique to you and well thought out. 2012 is going to be a wonderful year!!

  5. I relate to you in so many areas. The body issues, documenting life (I even have the Mom's One Line a Day journal), and wanting to grow in my faith especially. It's so hard working full time - I hope I can come up for air soon to get some goals together!

  6. I just love these goals, I think I might even adopt some of them! You are so inspiring! Keep it up girl! Eisley is so adorable!

  7. These are great resolutions. The first one fits in with what I think of as “escaping the tyranny of numbers.” We're always trying to measure things in our life -- weight, height, income, age, etc. -- but the important things can't be measured that way.

    (Also, I found myself much happier and healthier when I didn't have a scale. I think not thinking about it let me approach my body in a better, more sustainable way.)

    Good luck and happy new year!

  8. wonderful resolutions each and every one!!

  9. I love that you've chosen attainable goals. Too many times we beat ourselves up because we don't reach the high and lofty goals we think we need to in order to be "good enough." Excellent post and I'm looking forward to hearing more!

  10. I LOVE your list, girly! <3 And I really agree about the scale. Right now I weigh myself once a week or so and I don't care much about the number. I just like seeing how much I do weigh. In reality, I care about being healthy and losing weight in a healthy way!!! I think I'm pretty beautiful no matter how much I weigh and I know I can be healthy even if I lose 10lbs or less depending on my lifestyle!!!

    I wish you lots of luck with all of your goals!!!

  11. I've been following your blog for years, and I've loved watching you share so honestly. My first pregnancy was even a few months behind yours, and it's so encouraging to hear another new mom be so kind and gentle with herself and her goals for her family. I can't wait to see what happens in the year ahead!

  12. These are quite excellent! Wishing your little family a blessed 2012

  13. Doesn't it feel so good to simplify? I am a list maker (I carry around a small notebook full of lists) and its those simple realistic lists that make me feel the most relaxed and excited for what's ahead.

    Here's to 2012 being even more than you hope for :)


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