February 25, 2011

on five years of marriage...

five years of marriage!
Five years of marriage means there aren't any secrets left, which is pretty nice because now I don't have to hide my obsession with 90's pop music, my terrible sense of direction, my slightly intense hypochondria, my penchant for finishing an entire bottle of wine by myself, or my inability to remember much of anything unless reminded sixteen times.

Five years of marriage means the "young love" butterflies have been replaced with the cozy, intimate, content, knowing each other inside-and-out sort of butterflies. Instead of being the girl looking at a boy from afar and wondering what it would feel like to hold his hand, I am a woman standing next to a man and wondering what it will be like to see our baby in his arms.

Five years of marriage means the laughter outweighs the anger and the fancy dinners have been replaced with happy hour at our favorite restaurant. Romance is less about flowers, diamonds and buying the perfect gift and more about being the one to clean the kitchen without being asked, sending a sweet text just to say, "I love you!" and covering the other with a blanket when they have fallen asleep on the couch after a long day at work.

Five years of marriage means knowing how to argue, when to not back down, why sometimes it's okay to go to bed angry, and that – regardless of how much I desperately want to shove him into a wall sometimes – I am with the person I'll be with until we're both old and gray. We've been through enough ups and downs that we know things will look better if you just give it some time.

Five years of marriage means we've learned how to love each other. And continue to learn exactly what it means to be in love.

Five years of marriage means we're no longer newlyweds. (It also means looking back at our wedding photos and thinking, "Sweet mercy! How did they let me get married that young? I was a fetus!") It also means being grateful to have met my other half so early in life and realizing how many incredible moments we have yet to share together. Life is still just beginning.

Five years of marriage marks the last anniversary we will spend as a family of two. It marks the beginning of parenthood and new responsibilities. Before we know it, we'll be another five years down the road – and just thinking about where we'll be at that point makes me smile.

"Chains do not hold a marriage together.
It is threads, hundreds of tiny threads

which sew people together through the years
."

Simone Signoret

60 comments :

  1. Congratulations to you both - this post makes me teary-eyed and blissful knowing you've found such love. I'm inspired by you, darling :)

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  2. I loooove that quote. Congratulations to both of you on 5 years and many more!

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  3. Congrats on 5 years!! You must be extra excited with the little bundle on the way :) Enjoy yourself!

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  4. Congratulations on 5 years! This was such a sweet post to read. :]

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  5. Great post!! You have such a way with words! I love the way you wrote this! You describe love so perfectly :) Congrats!!

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  6. I looooove this post. I've only been married 2 years and we have a 9 month old, but I relate to so much of this. I can't wait until we're at five years.

    Congratulations!

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  7. Congrats! You guys are an inspiration!

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  8. This is gorgeous!!! Happy Anniversary you guys!!!

    Congrats on five years! We'll be celebrating our ninth year together and our fifth year married in 2012!!! This September 13th will be our fourth year married and I am so, so excited!

    Have a great night you two!!! YOU THREE!!!

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  9. OK, this had me in tears. Other than the family of two part at the end (unless you count a dog as three, but we've had him for a while) this post is exactly how I feel after 5 years with my boyfriend too. Thanks for writing this.

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  10. I heart you mucho. I've only been married a little more than a year (or just over four months depending on which anniversary you pick!) and it's all so very true. I, like you I think, just know I was meant to e a wife and a mom. There's somethig comforting about knowing you'll always have someone next to you no matter what. :)

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  11. aww what a lovely post! congrats to you! i too was lucky to have met my husband very early on in life and there's not a day that goes by where i don't tell myself how lucky i am <3 :)

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  12. I love love LOVE this - happy anniversary!!!

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  13. This is a beautiful, beautiful, beautiful post! Gives me hope for finding my love out there someday!

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  14. This is a beautiful post! Happy 5 years!!!

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  15. "I am a woman standing next to a man and wondering what it will be like to see our baby in his arms."

    LOVE LOVE LOVE that line. Congratulations on your anniversary and your baby!

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  16. Oh Kerri! What a beautiful post from a beautiful woman inside a beautiful marriage! Congratulations. And love is totally about washing dishes in our house. ;)

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  17. Congratulations! I wish you the best.

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  18. This made me tear up! I love it.

    Congratulations to 5 years of marriage!

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  19. What a lovely, sweet post. Happy anniversary!

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  20. Beautifully, beautifully written.

    Congratulations to you two!

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  21. That was great to read! Very sweet and thoughtful.
    I hope I can find a great marriage like yours.
    Congratulations on 5 yrs.of marriage!
    And yeah, even though I don't know your husband, I can see a baby in his arms :)

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  22. Wonderful post. Happy anniversary!

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  23. This is soooo beautiful. <3 I just cannot imagine what you must be feeling right now, about to bring a little person into this world with the one that you love. Epic! My boyfriend and I are about to hit 3 years together at the beginning of March. It's so hard to believe. I wanted to die laughing at "no matter how desperately I want to push him into a wall sometimes." I totally get that, lol. It's just funny, because I think we grow up with this fairy tale idea of love, and that "happily ever after" means peaches and sunbeams forever. And while it kinda does, sometimes it means learning how to work hard when things are easy. Sometimes it means CHOOSING to stay in love. You know what I mean? I love love love this. <3

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  24. You are one beautiful writer, missy. Happy Anniversary!

    (Hi Jay.)

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  25. I love this post! Our 5 year wedding anniversary is this year as well (in June), and I completely agree with everything you said. Happy Anniversary to you two as well! :)

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  26. I wonder if you will feel this way in another 5 yrs!! I baby can change the both of you! I been married 17 yrs and things don't stay so sweet after baby gets here. Good luck to you.

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  27. This post makes me believe that true love really exists. So happy for you and congratulations on 5 years.

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  28. This is such a lovely post. Happy Anniversary to you both. You're peaches.

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  29. Beautifully put. Happy Anniversary!

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  30. I really like that quote on marriage. Just found your blog, it's lovely!

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  31. Congratulations Kerry :) xxxx well done. Hope you have much happiness in the future. I love what you have said about marriage in this post btw.
    Sarah

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  32. a pleasant post to read.
    and what a great quote!

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  33. Absolutely beautiful. and thank you for that quote! I don't think I've ever read it before, but I've heard and believed in the idea of it for a long time My mind can finally rest in the eloquence of the original quote that I never knew existed! You are just so lovely.

    P.S. Several posts back, a friend of mine who also reads your blog and I guessed that you are pregnant. I think it was the reference to being sick for a few weeks and loving the way your body looks. She texted me and was like,"Wishcake is SO pregnant" and we texted again when you officially announced it. Maybe that's really weird, but I'm just so happy for you!

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  34. That is so exciting! Congratulations!

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  35. Congrats sweet girl! This is such a beautiful post, I'm so happy for the two of you! <3

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  36. Awwww this post made my heart hurt. What you described is exactly what I have been waiting to find. I wonder if I am ever going to find it. (you are such an amazing writer!!! you need to write a book ...just saying)

    Happy Anniversary! I am so happy for you both!! Y'all are such a cute couple. this baby is going to be stunning. I wish you both all the happiness and love the world has to offer!!

    I don't know what happened to my google reader but I missed some of your last posts until now but I was so excited to see that you've been posting quite often Love it!!

    ps: Can you send me you address if you don't mind. I have something I want to send you!!

    pss: adding your button to my blog. I dont know why i never saw it before..I would have put it up along time ago www.nothinbutatshirton.blogspot.com

    hope you feeling good and having a great weekend. We should have a chat soon:)

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  37. Happy five years! Eric and I always tell each other how thrilled we are that we found our true love so young. Five is an awesome milestone, and this is going to be an incredible year for you!

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  38. I love your words of wisdom! Congrats on making it 5 years - very inspiring! I wish many happy years together in your future.

    xoxo
    Jennifer
    The Art of Being You

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  39. This is a beautiful post. Love.

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  40. Such a beautiful post :)

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  41. Congratulations on five years of marital bliss and your baby to come! Love that quote you shared. I'm also 26 and happily married for three years this May. No baby bump as of yet (Lord willing not for another couple of years) but hoping to enjoy and discover each other and new experiences for a little while longer before little one comes along.

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  42. Oh, Kerri. This post makes me all melty. Happy anniversary. I love you two!

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  43. What a great post! I've been with my boyfriend for years and sometimes I miss the whole "beginning" stage. This post helped me realize all the good stuff that comes with being together for so long.

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  44. This is so, so good. My husband and I will celebrate four years together this July and I can relate to much of what you wrote. I also think it's awesome that you waited five whole years to have a baby....you will ALWAYS cherish that time together. Congrats!

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  45. Congrats on five years!!

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  46. Congratulations on five years!

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  47. beautiful. happy anniversary.
    i hope i will find what you two have one day.

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  48. Just began following your cute blog! Congrats on 5 years married!! And a baby on the way!! ;) That is so exciting!! :)

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  49. Congratulations on your anniversary. My husband and I just celebrated our 5th last October, and I have to say, this post reminded me of the good parts of being married. So often, it's easy to only look at the bad and to get discouraged, but you really hit the nail on the head about the good. Just keep that in mind for those times you want to shove him into a wall, LOL!

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  50. OMG. I love your blog. My name's Anna, I'm a stylist and visual merchandiser in LA. I just started my own Fashion site. Check it out for multiple post a day on all things fashion. I'm following, I hope you'll follow back.
    Thanks love. xoxo.

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  51. So happy that you two are so happy!!
    -oh, and please have a look at my new blog. I created it in a fit of loving you and starting to read all your posts from the beginning. You really shouldn't have told us we could. Now I can never close that internet window in case I go back to the wrong part and miss something. You're hilarious. I love hearing about things from the beginning :)
    Sarah xx

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  52. This post kind of gives me the butterflies. Butterflies because your love for your husband practically sings through your words here. And butterflies because I cannot wait to see how my husband and I have transformed between now and our five year anniversary.

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  53. Happy Anniversary! I'm still madly in love with my husband after almost 16 years of marriage! It's amazing how you grow and love one another more and more .

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  54. Aww, this is probably one of my favorite posts ever. It is beautiful and real and I WANT THIS. *happy sigh*

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  55. Yeah... your post made me cry. Curse you for ruining my makeup! ;) I, too, am with a boy named Jay and we have been dating for almost five years. I can't wait until we can look back and say we've been married for five years like you. :)

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  56. happy anniversary! thank you for such beautiful words about marriage :)

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  57. Happy! happy (somewhat belated) anniversary, babe. Here's to a lifetime more.

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