April 19, 2010

on some words for a friend...

J & M.

A little over a week ago, my best friend became a wife. And I was lucky enough to have been her maid (or matron, technically) of honor. Being able to share those moments with her meant the absolute world to me - and because I'm quite awful when it comes to actually speaking a speech, I thought I'd write the one that I wish would have been said. So, here it is.

Marianne and I had an instant connection. We first met while working at the airport, and connected one day when I randomly spouted off a borderline-inappropriate quote from Saturday Night Live. (Later, she told me how that was the moment she just knew we were going to be friends.) The first time we met up outside of work, it was more of a first date than just two friends hanging out, as we were both worried about one person judging the other - and spent way too much time figuring out what to wear. Despite the initial nerves, we soon became inseparable.

I can honestly say that Marianne is much more than a soul-sister than a friend.

Through the past several years of our friendship, we've made endless memories together - and I can often be found giggling to myself about them, even years afterwards. Having so many years to work together were quite priceless, to say the least! The times we had shifts together early in the morning and she'd pop out from behind the door (never fail) and I'd tell her that it caused me physical pain and that it kind of made me hate her just a little bit. That one day we sat around and drooled over the pilot who looked like Kevin Bacon. The one day we mashed a bunch of cookie dough together and make one huge "Super Cookie" because we were bored. Trying on the children's bomber jackets from the gift store. Taking turns running to the back room when something gave us uncontrollable giggles and we could no longer hide it. Not wearing nylons to meetings, just out of spite.

And then, of course, there are the other adventures.

That one day our happy hour ended up lasting seven hours and we had to bike ride home in the dark. Singing Regina Spektor songs at the top of our lungs in the middle of the night, not caring if we sounded shrill beyond belief. The three Mae concerts we attended together - one involving the strongest margarita ever concocted. Our two road trips to San Francisco. Wine nights at my old apartment. The fact that we can nearly quote her Will Ferrell and Cheri Oteri SNL DVD's, word-for-word. Summer mornings spent lounging on the beach, tanning (or if we're going to be technical, "freckling"). Hugging each other when we need to, listening to each other cry, making each other laugh, telling each other that it will always be okay.

To be honest, Marianne is one of the most beautiful, caring, generous, open-hearted and hilarious people I've met in my entire life. She has shown me an amazing example of forgiveness and compassion. She always, always puts other people ahead of herself. She is selfless to a fault. She has the most beautiful soul, and I can't tell you how much joy it brought me when she found John.

It's been wonderful to have the chance to see their relationship flourish from a crush, to infatuation, to love - and now, becoming two people that are truly the perfect fit for each other. Both Marianne and John have worked hard to get to the place they are now. Which is, of course, a loving wife to a loving husband. And I couldn't be happier for such a lovely couple.

Before Marianne walked down the aisle, we shared a couple minutes that I will cherish for the rest of my life. She quickly applied a new layer of lip gloss, made sure her hair was fixed, took a deep breath and smiled.

"You're like a sister to me. You've always been."

"You, too, Marianne. Always. And I'm so happy for you."

So, this is all to say that I couldn't be more thrilled that one of the sweetest people I've ever known is now moving forward to continue her life with the man she loves more than anything. And for them to begin one as husband and wife. (As long as John knows that I get to steal her away for sushi dates and periodical, late-night, uncontrollable laughter, then I'm sure we won't have any trouble at all.)

I love you, Marianne! More than you'll ever know. And you deserve every bit of happiness the world has to offer you.

22 comments :

  1. Very sweet and touching. You're a wonderful writer, and obviously a wonderful friend.

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  2. This was so sweet. And I love that picture.

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  3. Ahhh Kerri I hate when you make me cry! I need to stop reading your blog:)

    Your speech was perfect at the wedding (also made me cry), and this just adds to it - so sweet. You two are the most adorable best friends, and I'm lucky to have you both in my life!

    Jenn :)

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  4. Awww.... that was wonderful!

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  5. Oh <3. Good thinking on posting it. I was stoked with my maid of honour speech at my best friends wedding, but I lost the copy I had of it and now its gone. Alas! Glad your speech went well :)

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  6. Jessica @ How Sweet4/20/10, 3:32 AM

    So sweet. You are an amazing friend!

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  7. Your friendship/sisterhood is so heart warming and inspiring. Beautifully written, Kerri!

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  8. Ah! This was so lovely, what sweet words! I love seeing girlfriends who love each other this much!

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  9. What a lovely 'speech' Kerri. I wish them both well! x

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  10. Beautiful. Good friends make life worth living!

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  11. What a wonderful tribute to a wonderful friend :)

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  12. :) Brought tears to my eyes. And reminded me of my "soul-sister"'s wedding day last January. I hope your friend reads this and knows how much you love her.

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  13. I really do love your blog. What a sweet post. =)

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  14. This is beautiful. You're going to make me cry if your not careful!

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  15. This post made me cry! The closeness between you two is extraordinary and I loved reading about it.

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  16. And then I cried all over the place! So lovely.

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  17. This is so sweet and so well written. :) I love it!

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  18. Awww I love this! It was so sweet and sincere. You're lucky to have a friend like that.

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  19. This post definitely made me teary eyed!!! I can just picture what it is going to be like when my best friend gets married.
    Lovely post!

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  20. I don't know either of you, but this is beautiful! Sounds like a very special friendship. You're both lucky girls!

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  21. ah, such a sweet and genuine, truly lovely post. It definitely brought a tear to my eye, and I can just FEEL your love for your beautiful friend. It sounds like you two amazing girls have such a wonderful and special friendship to treasure. Such a blessing- those friendships are rare, which makes them that much more special. :)

    I'm glad you shared this with all of us. you're just such a genuine sweetiheart, Kerri.

    congratulations to your Marianne and her new husband!

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  22. This is so nice. I can only hope that when I get married, my best friend has such kind, loving words to speak about me. <3 Marianne is lucky.

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