November 18, 2008

on the sister thing...

three sisters.

Although my youngest two sisters are no less dear to me, I'll always see us three oldest as the originals. Simply because they are the only ones who have known me from the beginning, aside from my parents. Whenever we are able to all get together, it feels like home.

There's just something about sisters. You love them, you sometimes think you hate them, but they're always there to cheer you on. And these two girls are the only ones in the world who shared those moments with me. And every time I'm lucky enough to have us all together, I want to just hold onto them and refuse to let them go.

This photo was taken at the baby shower last weekend. And I just love how it turned out! You should see how long it takes to take a photo that we are all satisfied with, by the way. After every photo there is some outcry of some sort.

"Wait! I like the left side of my face better! Can we switch sides?"

"My hair looks weird. WHY DIDN'T YOU TELL ME MY HAIR LOOKS WEIRD?"

"Ewww! I have a double chin!"

"Why does my arm look fatter than yours?"

It is great. It's fun times. But, vanity aside, I've always felt like we're the same exact person at the core. We're just different versions of the same person. One of us is more outgoing, one of us is more creative, one of us is more serious. We've done different things and led different lives, but when we're all together, we still laugh at the same things and can look at each other and know what the other is thinking without saying a word.

They understand me completely when I talk about the small town we lived so many years in, when I speak of old boyfriends and best friends, when I call our dad 'Gray Jean Man', when I proclaim that raspberries taste best when picked out of your own back yard. They understand the importance of a Christmas stocking, and can appreciate a good quote from an Abbot & Costello movie. We danced around to Mary Kate & Ashley Olsen, Amy Grant, and Mariah Carey cassettes. We built nests out of grass in the backyard. We played cops & robbers with the kid's next door. We went on family vacations to Disneyland and Lincoln City, Oregon. A couple of us pretended to be Harriet the Spy for a good, solid six months, and probably creeped out our one and only neighbor on many occasions.

We grew up, spent too much time doing our bangs, had irrational crushes on too many boys. We argued a lot, raided each other's closets, ignored each other, leaned on each other, laughed until we cried. Our mom carted us back and forth between art classes and dance classes and youth group and theatre auditions and dress rehearsals and somehow managed to stay sane and absolutely amazing. We were blessed one Christmas, through foster care, with a tiny little girl with big blue eyes - she was destined to be the fourth sister. Lucky for us, a couple years later it became official! Not long after, a fifth sister arrived into our home and hearts. Once again, a perfect fit. We were now an absolutely amazing, happy (yet slightly hormonal) family of five sisters, mom and dad.

We moved away from each other, sometimes oceans between us, and sometimes a month would pass between phone calls. One of us got married, then another. We would make time for a visit, but really, nothing is as good as knowing you can walk down the hallway and knock on one of their doors when you want to talk with them.

We've grown up, grown apart at certain times, grown closer as the years go by, and now one of us is going to have a baby of her own. Isn't that amazing? We've gone through all these years of childhood, growing up, and now there is going to be a new baby in the family.

I can't wait to see what the world holds for little Landon. Come January, we will all welcome the first boy into the family - that is, if we're not counting husbands.

(And boy, is my dad looking forward to it!)

30 comments :

  1. This is such a beautiful post--you really capture the complexity of the love of and for siblings. You and your sisters are gorgeous, and it sounds like you have some wonderful years ahead together.

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  2. Aww! What a super sweet post! I always wished my sisters were closer in age to me, we are all 5 years apart, and it just isn't the same! Great great post!

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  3. ok, so I totally cried at this post. Part of that is due to the fact that my hormones are making me crazy emotional :), but really, it's because you captured sisterhood so beautifully. I have two sisters I am extremely close to, and there's now over 1,000 miles between us. I miss them SO MUCH it literally hurts sometimes-- because you're right, there is nothing like walking down the hallway for some time together or at least having them pop in to say hello.
    you and your sisters are so beautiful!! And what a blessing that there are FIVE of you now. Wow. :)

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  4. Ohh sweetness, this post was so endearing. Thank you for sharing! And btw, you sisters are gorgeous!!

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  5. I have three sisters too. I am the yougest and the oldest is 40. yeah..my parents were getting busy. This post i so awesome. i love my sisters but unfortunatly we have grown apart over the years. we have all gone our different paths.

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  6. You and your sisters are absolutely gorgeous. This kinda makes me sad (in a good way) that I didn't have sisters while I was growing up. Great post!

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  7. Sigh. Your post makes me wish I had siblings. Especially sisters. I'll be gaining a sister in law soon... but she's very quiet and lives in Washington. Ah, the many facets of being an only child.

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  8. My sister and I are totally the same person. We are bit scary together, what with the fast talking, loud laughing, and countless inside jokes, but it's pretty awesome.

    I love that your parents fostered and adopted! Adoption stories really get me. So great.

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  9. Very cute picture! And I have 2 sisters and we are close too! And I can relate to everything you said. Great post :)

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  10. You girls are all so gorgeous!

    I really loved this post... so sweet. I've said it before and I'll say it again -- I am quite jealous of all the sisters you have! That's always something I wished I had (as much as I love him, my brother wasn't as cooperative when I tried to get him to play Harriet the Spy with me, haha).

    And I am so excited for your family to be welcoming little Landon soon. And wow, it really is coming up fast!

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  11. You and your sisters are all so beautiful and lucky to have each other!

    I have three other siblings (a brother and two much younger sisters from my dad's second marriage) and cannot imagine life without them.

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  12. This touches me so much because I have two sisters and missed out on all those little moments that we should have had. We spent most of our lives clawing to stay together because he spent his time trying to keep us apart. Your post makes me almost want to cry because it makes me realize that due to one man's evilness, I have lost the moments of inside jokes, sweet memories, big fights, and chill days with each other.

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  13. This is the most wonderful post ever! I love it. Sisterhood is not always easy, but it's always rewarding. I feel so lucky to have mine!

    PS: No doubt your dad is excited - finally, A BOY!

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  14. oh my gosh. how are you three soooo gorgeous?!?!

    this was really the sweetest post ever!

    Love it!!

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  15. What a sweet post! I dont have a sister and reading this post makes me wish I did. How awesome that the three of you get along so well.

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  16. i adore this post.

    you and your sisters are so fabulous, i love it.

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  17. Lovely. Just lovely.

    BTW, your sister with the blonde curls looks like Amber Benson in her Buffy days.

    You are all gorgeous.

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  18. So sweet, and written perfectly! My sister and I are 18 months apart and we have been best friends our entire lives. Sisters are a blessing!!

    So are nephews! My sister is also an Aunt to MY Landon (: My 2 year old son is my sister's partner in crime and they have shared a special bond since day one. Being an Aunt is fun and amazing! You will love it. Have a great day!

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  19. Firstly, I have to say that this post touched my heart completely. I feel the same way with my sister as you do with yours (my sister is younger than me by almost 2 years). I miss her so much; we don't see each other often because she lives 2 hours away & have a crazy work schedule. But she is my very best friend... hands down. We took baths together until we were like, 10 years old... I even potty trained her! We're peas in a pod. Of all the things my parents instilled is us, they wanted us to be best friends forever...

    Also, I went through the SAME phases as you & your sisters did. My sister & I were total spies for months! We got composition notebooks, binoculars, & set up in our tree house spying on people. We also danced to Amy Grant & Mariah Carey tapes. You took me back! It seems like so long ago (while at the same time, just yesterday) that we were rambunctious little knobby-kneed kids, playing in the dirt with our Barbies...

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  20. Oh & might I add that beauty definitely runs thick in the family! I'd love to see a picture of your mom & see how much you guys look like her. All of you are just stunning.

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  21. Hurrah for sisters! My 3 sisters (and 1 brother, can't forget him!) make my life so much better. Sigh. They really are replications of me - sometimes even physically. People are constantly telling one of my sisters and I that we have all the same mannerisms and insanely similar personalities. I take it as a compliment. :)

    You do such a wonderful job of sharing your life with us, m'dear. :)

    It's quite obvious that you've found your writing "voice" and that makes me happy for you!

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  22. What a beautiful post and congrats to you and your family! I wish I could say the same for my sister and I. I'm sitting here tearing up. My sister and I have NEVER been close. We are only two years apart and we couldn't be more different. We can go months without talking or seeing each other and she only lives an hour away---used to be 15 minutes. I could say more, but then I'd take way too much of your comment spot. I need to go write about this and just purge.

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  23. aw what a sweet post and an even sweeter picture. you girls look amazing. and it's great that you are so close with your sisters, i love it.

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  24. Blog stalker here - but OMG, you soooo just made me want to have another baby! I have 2 now and you made me want another one!! I'm an only child and reading your post made me so envious of all you had growing up! Beautiful post!!

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  25. Beautiful pic! Its great that you are so close! I dont know what I would do without my sister!

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  26. Well thanks for making me jealous of the sisterly love! I'm an only child...but admire anyone who can put up (and truly adore) their siblings.

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  27. What a sweet post ... I loved hearing about all of your childhood memories. Sounds like you girls always had so much fun! I'm glad you all got the chance to get together again! Yay for sisters!

    The picture of you three is just darling!

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  28. HEY FRIEND are you alright? You haven't posted in like, 3 days. That is just madness. Hope you are well dear :)

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  29. Love your post about your sisters. Sisters truly are special. Beautiful photo, too!

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  30. You perfectly described the miracle that is sisterhood. I have three sisters myself and I related 100 percent to your post. And congrats on the nephew - mine is almost 2 years old and he's the light of my dad's life. Their bond is about the sweetest thing you'll ever see.

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